Seeing our parents grow older is a mix of emotions. You’re grateful to have them with you, but you also know that aging will bring changes to their lives, including health issues and challenges with daily activities.
If you’re taking care of your aging parents, you’re not alone. A survey by the National Alliance for Caregiving and AARP found that one in nine Americans is an unpaid caregiver for an adult with health needs. The number of family caregivers in the US rose to 9.5 million in 2020.
While you might be ready to take on this responsibility, there are times you might feel unsure or overwhelmed. To help, let’s break down the different areas where your elderly parents might need assistance.
Remember, your parents were once independent and it’s hard for them to realize they now need help. You can make this transition easier by understanding their needs and discussing these issues openly and gently.
Knowing where your parents need help makes caregiving easier. Start by assessing how much help they need in their daily lives and figure out what support they are already getting. This will give you a clear picture of what you need to do or what services to arrange for.
It’s common to feel stressed by caregiving duties. Even though you love your parents, it’s also essential to consider your own health and well-being. That same survey showed that 23% of Americans feel caregiving has negatively impacted their health.
Hands-on care is great, but it might not always be possible if you live far away, work full-time, or have young children. It’s okay to arrange for external help to ensure your parents’ health and safety.
Aging can make your parents feel less in control. Involving them in decisions, big or small, is crucial. But in emergencies, you might have to make immediate decisions. Start with a few tasks and gradually increase the support to meet their needs.
Long-term care can be expensive. Medicare and Medicaid cover some costs, but not all. Home modifications can be costly, and assisted living can be even more expensive. Consider the costs involved and have an open discussion with your parents about their financial situation, taxes, and potential benefits from government programs.
To make aging at home safe, clear the clutter and remove hazardous items. Fire safety and a well-stocked first aid kit are important. Modifying the home by installing grab bars, stairlifts, or wheelchair ramps, and removing rugs and wires can make it safer. Professional agencies can also help with home modifications.
Whether your parents live with you or on their own, accessible communication is crucial, especially in emergencies. A basic mobile phone with preset important contacts can provide confidence and peace of mind. Teach your parents to use new technology to stay connected with family and friends.
There are many resources available to help care for aging parents. Geriatric managers can guide and manage aspects of aging. You can hire in-home help through care agencies or consider assisted living facilities if 24/7 care is needed. The Area Agency on Aging can provide local resources and information on government programs.
Caring for your aging parents should be something you do willingly. Understanding what’s involved can prevent you from feeling overwhelmed. Planning ahead and taking the right steps can make the process smoother for both you and your parents, ensuring they enjoy their later years in health and safety.
